Does long distance co-parenting work?

Does long distance co-parenting work?

On Behalf of | Feb 3, 2022 | Military Divorce |

Being a member of the military comes with a lot of benefits, but it also comes with some surprising drawbacks that you may not even be aware of until you are dealing with them directly. One of them involves the possibility of relocating after a divorce.

In such a situation, your co-parent will likely maintain full physical custody of your child, while you may have to go weeks, months or even years with barely a visit. How do you keep up co-parenting in a situation like that?

Discussing a plan with your co-parent

Parents discuss how some co-parents handle a situation where they share custody but live a far distance from their ex-spouse. Communication and technology both play heavy roles here. First, communication is always key, both with your co-parent and with your child.

You want to be able to talk out how you plan on handling this parenting change with your co-parent. Together, you can work out a system that allows for open communication with your child, even if you cannot physically see them as often as you would like. You may need to make compromises, but as long as you communicate it clearly, you should run into fewer problems.

Using technology to help

Utilize technology where you can, too. Rely on video chats, phone calls, text messages or instant messaging platforms. See what your child feels the most comfortable with and try to meet them there. This can provide comfort and stability to your child through familiarity. At the same time, it gives you the chance to maintain your relationship and ensure that you remain a part of your child’s life even at a distance.